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source: mastodon
date: 2025-06-13 20:07:33.92 +00
title: "Mastodon post from June 13, 2025, 114677858560931131"
post_uri: https://mastodon.social/users/gravely/statuses/114677858560931131
post_id: 114677858560931131
tags:
  - mastodon
descendants:
- 114677882615532769
- 114677910942656257
---
a move I've noticed cool hip with-it conflict-avoidant people do which I've decided to try to do is to make more claims about my own experience than I normally would because it feels redundant or just a lot of work to do all the time

so instead of “you should __" or "people should __" I try to go with with “I have __ and here's how it worked out for me, to me.”



I kinda remember being mad like twenty years ago that every other move needed to be considered with an "in my experience, __" prefix and this is how long it took me to connect it? wild

as a bonus, this helps me feel ok not passing along second-hand “advice" or information, or even posting much at all anymore